TL;DR Don't do a dating website.
Dating sites are an exercise in futility. You will not find fulfillment in a dating site for the simple reason that most people on dating sites have absolutely no idea on how to enter a relationship. Here is it how it works in the real world:
- I see you
- I think you're hot
- We hang out and do it ASAP
- Instant relationship (ok, hookup culture has changed this to FWB, but I'm old school)
Dating sites think that you can move steps 1,2 online. Haha. No. Do you know what women find attractive? Hint: it's absolutely NOT the visual. I've dated women way out of my physical league who absolutely adore me years after we dated and I am quite possibly the ugliest fucker you'll meet. They think about me even after they are in relationships which makes me uncomfortable but hey...
Dating sites are made by stupid men who don't understand how attraction works. Yes, the muscle bro will most definitely get dates and has a leg up. But that's not the average dude who is usually on such sites.
Quite frankly, women don't know what attracts them until they see it either.
So we're all fucked.